So many people ask me things and are not quite sure what terminology to use. So, to keep awkwardness to a minimum and to help people feel comfortable with talking about it, here are some definitions:
Real Mom/Dad: Most people refer to Alma when they ask about my "real mom". In my book, my real mom is….well….my real mom. And my real dad is my real dad. The ones who raised me to be who I am today and that would be Roy and Sandy Spencer. You see, a real mom is the person in the position that is mothering the child. And oh the things this child put these real parents through! HA! I am lucky they didn't sell me off. And I also feel that meeting Alma has made me appreciate my real mom more. It has never made me question the mother/daughter bond that I have had with her and that I will always have with her. She is my real mom.
Up north Mom: This is what I call Alma to other people. My "up north mom". It's been an interesting thing with her. I most certainly feel that there is something there that connects us together. I am very fond of Alma and I do love her. She is someone that loves me very much. I will be curious to see what happens over the next few years with her. She is an important part of my creation.
Family: Now this is where I really get excited!! Not only do I have a faithful family that has been with me through thick and thin…I have new family that I am learning about everyday that have opened their arms to me as well. On one side, I have learned that "blood" relation doesn't dictate family or real love. My family is a testament to this in so many ways, even with kids other than myself in our family. They are AWESOME! On the other side, this "blood" stuff really brings people together too! The Hude family has embraced me like I have always been there. And they have all respected the fact that I do have a first family and it's just so awesome that there is never any confusion. I am so blessed.
Anyways, I hope that clears up a few things, at least J Like I said, this thing sometimes is a little complicated but so simple in one regard….there is a whole lot of love and good stuff in my life.