Definitions:

So many people ask me things and are not quite sure what terminology to use. So, to keep awkwardness to a minimum and to help people feel comfortable with talking about it, here are some definitions:

 

Real Mom/Dad: Most people refer to Alma when they ask about my "real mom". In my book, my real mom is….well….my real mom. And my real dad is my real dad. The ones who raised me to be who I am today and that would be Roy and Sandy Spencer. You see, a real mom is the person in the position that is mothering the child. And oh the things this child put these real parents through! HA! I am lucky they didn't sell me off. And I also feel that meeting Alma has made me appreciate my real mom more. It has never made me question the mother/daughter bond that I have had with her and that I will always have with her. She is my real mom.

Up north Mom: This is what I call Alma to other people. My "up north mom". It's been an interesting thing with her. I most certainly feel that there is something there that connects us together. I am very fond of Alma and I do love her. She is someone that loves me very much. I will be curious to see what happens over the next few years with her. She is an important part of my creation.

Family: Now this is where I really get excited!! Not only do I have a faithful family that has been with me through thick and thin…I have new family that I am learning about everyday that have opened their arms to me as well. On one side, I have learned that "blood" relation doesn't dictate family or real love. My family is a testament to this in so many ways, even with kids other than myself in our family. They are AWESOME! On the other side, this "blood" stuff really brings people together too! The Hude family has embraced me like I have always been there. And they have all respected the fact that I do have a first family and it's just so awesome that there is never any confusion. I am so blessed.

 

Anyways, I hope that clears up a few things, at least J Like I said, this thing sometimes is a little complicated but so simple in one regard….there is a whole lot of love and good stuff in my life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Like A Mighty Rushing Waterfall…

So feels my life around here lately. To say the least… quickly changing and never quite the same. But like a mighty waterfall, I still find beauty is this thing called life. It's been a long time since I have written on this blog. And, it probably won't be read by many but, just maybe, it will help me talk myself into rhyme and reason J So many things have happened and I will slowly try and catch up you up on the story.

A year has gone by since I first met Alma and the kids. It's been a roller coaster but so many good things have come about. I have 3 awesome sisters, ages 26, 16 and 14. And two cool brothers, ages 23 and 17. We try to stay connected on a regular basis. My sister Sarah and I are becoming great friends. Over Christmas, she called me just to tell me about our brother and how he brought all his belongings to her house and there was not an inch to move. It made my heart smile because even though we talk all the time, it was the first real "sister" conversation that we have had. The phone call lasted all of 5 minutes and I don't think I will ever forget it. This big sister thing is challenging some days but I love it. And, I try not to act to old and mature when talking with them J hehe…

Alma and I continue to carry on. In the recent months, we have not kept touch the way I would like to. Seems like life circumstances seem to get in the way sometimes. She is such a kind woman and she loves her kids. I think she just has so much going on in her immediate life that it doesn't leave a whole lot of room for me right now. I do tell myself that we have the rest of our lives and that I need to be patient. For those of you that know me, you already know this is a HUGE struggle for me. God's timing and purpose are perfect and I just need to put that relationship in His hands. (And quit driving myself crazy!!)

There are so many dynamics to this thing. My parents, my brother, Alma and kids, the Hude family. Everyone has touched my life and opened my eyes and heart. One thing that I have learned is the word FAMILY means so much to me. Alma gave my parents the greatest gift…not that I am tooting my horn, lol....but she also gave them to me and for that I am grateful. And my parents gave Alma the greatest gift…they loved this little redheaded baby into a grown woman. I am so thankful. For all of them.